I am a woman!!!!!

  - December 26th, 2012 by Shalini Nambiar | Posted in General, life   5 Comments »
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When I truly look at myself, and who I am as a woman I am amazed. I love my femininity and the power that goes with it. There is nothing about being a woman that I can’t use to my advantage. My life is moving in directions I couldn’t ever imagine and I`m loving the journey. .

I am more compassionate, sympathetic, kind and patient in nature. I can relate to the hurt and pain suffered by others and will go to any lengths to offer relief to them. I am emotionally stronger. This ability gives me the power to face any kind of challenge.

I can multitask. I have the capability to achieve the pinnacle in an organization, run successful empires and even rule nations. At the same time, I am the best judge at the home front as well. I know best what my family requires and attending to their needs is my most important priority. I am a pillar of strength and support to self and people around me. I am more beautiful than the other sex not only physically but internally.

Then why I am scared? Why I am not being treated as Equal partner to a man? Why I am being raped? Why I am being eve teased? Why I am looked down upon? Why I am not given the promotion I deserve? Why? Why? These questions trouble and cloud my mind and I continue living facing all the sarcasm, all the pain, all the humiliations…Because I am a woman!!!!!!

Please do not hurt me as remember I bring you into this world. I carry you in my womb for nine months, I go through all the labor pain, I bear all this because I love you. I may not eat but I will make sure you are fed because I am a mother .

When you disrespect me it hurts me internally , I lose my confidence, I lose the will to live , I am a human being so respect me because I am a woman !!!!

The recent rape in the city has shocked all, not because it is a rape but the brutality of it .I salute all the protestors who braved the cold to be out on the street to protest against this ghastly crime. But let us reflect why things are the way it is.

We need to look at the grass root problem , of course the onus lies with the government to make stringent laws but me as a citizen can I do something ?

I as a mother can educate my son to treat all women with respect, with admiration, with love. I need to treat while bringing up my son and daughter in the same way rather than questioning my daughter when she goes out and my son free to venture out at any time. The world will not change for our daughters until we make a change in our sons. I need to sensitize my son that household chores have nothing to do with gender. I must tell him that a girl is free to dress up the way she wants

The most important thing I can teach my children, whether male or female, is to treat others the way they want to be treated them. I must not let my son grow into a male chauvinist.

If I can do all this as a mother, schools can also do a lot by teaching gender equality. In India schools are busy finishing the curriculum and they forget that education is incomplete without teaching the child the important skills, the skills which are needed to emerge as a confident individual at the end of the school term. When a child passes out of school he or she is well versed with everything except the moral values which form the basis of any society. Let us not look at short term measures.

Sex Education needs to be introduced and appropriate curriculum needs to be designed.

But as a mother, as an educationist I am ready to do all but what about you, the High profile Government officers, our protectors …What are you doing? Are you going to hang the rapist or again will it be more about who can buy whom? Should Capital Punishment be given? Are you going to take years to decide or wait for another rape to occur and people come out on the street?

You living in those high profile offices spent a lot of money and time on deciding whether death sentence has to be given to Kasab , I can just imagine how long you will take in deciding this!!!!

This is my India, Wake up India!!!

Shalini Nambiar,
Excelsior American School


December 26 2012 01:30 pm | General and life

5 Responses to “I am a woman!!!!!”

  1. Kalyani Ganesh Says:

    Stayed abroad mainly for 16 years; dinner meetings or dance practice used to get over late nights, I was coming back home around 1 or 2am. University vehicle used to drop me near the common bus stop, I have to walk it up to my building. Never feared to walk in the middle of the night. Because of severe punishments for small crimes, people were scared to break the rules in those countries. Why cant we do that?

    My opinion,
    1. Once traffic inspector catch a guy and punish him for crossing red signal, overtaking from left, not following the traffic rules, not following the speed limits, etc….automatically people will follow the rules.
    2. Once give severe punishment for harassing, etc….etc…. somuch to tell….

    With all that, our girls must understand that dress is for covering the body; if they decide to show half, better they can walk naked, instead of blaming somebody teasing or harassing them. Dress we wear should make others to respect us, not to laught behind. Actually this is the comment from my student who is working in india now. What he says is true.

  2. Nishi Saran Says:

    Ms Shalini, your article is very powerful and I would like more and more people to read it so that they are awakened to the reality.This incident has shaken the whole country and your article will empower the women of the country to fight against the atrocities done on them. Even we educators have a great role to play in channelizing the minds of the children to the right direction as Nelson Mandela has said,” Education is the most powerful weapon we can use to change the world.”

  3. sia sethi Says:

    we can see the thing has happened again and police helped the culprit to escape……..cant see any end to it……but will try my best to help my each student to grow as a civilized and responsible person of the society….

  4. sia sethi Says:

    if talking about dresses, its not always the girls in short dresses are the victims…..if ths is wht the women of society think thn I am ashamed of being the part of ths society…..

    Dont tell your daughter to not step out at night.
    Instead teach your sons better…..

  5. Vatsala Dadeech Says:

    The article really shakes us up and every word is powerful to make the reader think about the dreadful thing that happened. People need to give it a serious thought and not forget the whole episode till the next one happens again. We all should not forget and not let the government and the decision making people forget just because she has been sent out of India.

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