As an educationist I want to write about my dream about that little child who walks in with hopes and dreams in his eyes, my dream to make him a happy human being and successful in whatever he ventures in life.
Education is incomplete if it does not enable a child to have faith in himself, to dream big, to work hard to realize that dream. I still get tears in my eyes when I recall what I went through when I was in school for almost 6 years. I, as a child was extremely shy and a feeling of insecurity was there since I was always a plump child… I was nicknamed Fatty by all and how it use to hurt, I am sure you can imagine But My Mom gave me the courage and supported me throughout, taught me how important it is to face the world and listen to one’s heart.
There are hundreds of examples of people in this world who have believed what others have said about them and failed and there are just as many people who have refused to be influenced by the opinion of others and have been successful. Whatever I am today I owe it to my Mom…
One of the first rules in life is to trust yourself. Kids get too much advice from everyone else of what they should do in life. No one allows them to discover themselves. Speaking from personal example I discovered very late in life what I really wanted to do in my life… everyone else decided till then what I should do… my education did not prepare me for the harsh realities of life… it did not tell me that when offered with choices I should be able to take the decision, discover it myself.
If, I were to ask each one of you, to think of one person in your life who you consider successful and why? I am sure most of you while naming that person will talk about hard work, dedication, commitment, honesty etc etc which led him or her to excel. How come then we do not have school advertisements saying that so and so scored 99% in Hard work, 98% in commitment…aren’t theses the qualities our education should prepare us for. Education’s final measurable impact is not in the exam result or the sports result not in the earning process but in the quality of the lives it inspires its students to lead.
Parents go and watch a movie like ‘3 Idiots’ and agree and promise themselves that this is indeed the correct way but they walk half a kilometer from the movie hall and start asking their child how come your friend scored 90% .’
Let’s teach the children the beauty of being imperfect. That it’s all right to make mistakes. We have to be prepared for tomorrow when it would be more important to learn how to rapidly adapt to a different job tasks and to constantly think out of the box, what we need is to develop a system that encourages students to gain multiple abilities to help them combat the rapid changes in today’s world. This is the kind of education schools should give. To be educated is to be aware of ones self, ones realities, ones potential.
Change our programming as parents and teachers from,’ What if my child fails’ to ,’What if my child succeeds…
Life is not reserved only for those who score 96% in exams, life is not all about money, it’s about loving what you are doing. When we grow up we do not wear our medals and achievements around our neck and go looking for a job but we carry our confidence, our communication skills and most importantly our trust and belief on our capabilities.
Remember in life its very few people who actually do what they love to do and those are the people who have been always successful in that as they work hard for that…
To dare something new we must move out of our comfort zone. Since early childhood we are conditioned to swim with the swarm, forgetting we have a choice at any one moment of our life. So my belief is such that yesterday when a prospective parent walked in my room and asked me about my philosophy… I said… ’ We teach then to dream, have faith in their dreams and follow them wholeheartedly so that they achieve it…’
When I was in school I always dreamt of sitting in a Gondola and my Dad was a middle class government servant where one could not even think of going abroad and sitting in a gondola was like a far fled dream… Everyone laughed at me… my friends use to make fun of me but my Dad was always motivating me, inspiring me to dream the impossible and finally when I sat in the Gondola after thinking about it for 7 years… all I had were tears of joy in my eyes…
In our effort to do a good job raising our children we tend to nit pick our kids to death over their flaws and failures. Instead ask your children…if they feel you are impossible top please …if you are always pinpointing their wrongs and rarely mentioning their rights.
Thus my advise… let the child be.. let him follow his heart. lets remember that each child is unique… Khalil Gibran has aptly said
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
What should schools teach?
Firstly teach them that failure is not a negative term as There has never been a single successful person who hasn’t failed numerous times on their journey to success. In fact, the most successful people in life are those who have failed the most.
Secondly teach them Goal setting.
Only three percent of people commit their goals to paper.
These are the same people who find the greatest success in
life. Goals help us to reach a new
level in life.
So, let’s teach our kids to make big goals. Let’s teach our kids
the greatest keys to success…
Lastly teach them i how to figure out what you really want in life. Unfortunately, far too many people never take the time to do
this. At the workplace we meet these types of people. They are the ones who spend the whole week just looking forward to the weekend. Let’s not get stuck waiting for the weekend. Let’s teach the children find what we truly love to do in life and make it our vocation.
I firmly believe that it is very hard to succeed at something you hate.
On the other hand, it’s hard not to succeed when working at something you love.
I am fully aware that the path is full of challenges , full of people who will tell me I am wrong but I am determined to follow it….it may be a long path , a tough one but I am not deterred
It doesn’t matter who I am, I will work, work and work, All the forces of the universe will also assist me and I will achieve what I dream…
Excelsior American School.
March 26 2012 04:58 pm | Teachers