- December 14th, 2009 by Shalini Nambiar | Posted in life   7 Comments »
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Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections

When I received this message on my mobile my fingers started itching to write, some people often tell me that blogging means one should write frequently but for me it’s the pleasure of writing whenever I feel like, which stimulates me and the thought can come at the weirdest of  times. Well today it came when I had to stand in a line to make my payment at the shopping mall counter. I was observing the people around me and everyone was frowning and upset with the sales man for the delay and it seemed as if everyone had the most urgent work to do.. No one was willing to understand the poor sales guy who probably was new in his job and trying to get a hang of the computer. With so many people screaming at him he was taking more time and I could see his nervous fingers punching at the keys. I was wishing that people, instead of getting so restless could give him a smile and a nice thank you but we don’t believe in thanking.

Its been days since I wrote… always getting entangled with work… of course for me work is pleasure but I miss my writings… miss reflecting on each day… life is just going on and each day is an adventure..at least that’s the way I like looking at it.

I get up each morning with a great deal of zeal and excitement and wait for the day to unfold it’s mysterious ways, there is an element of excitement when you don’t know what will happen and I always look forward to that excitement. I have never been a planner and like surprises, good or bad that depends on how one views them because what is good for one person maybe bad for other. I like to be happy because I don’t know what will happen tomorrow, maybe I am gone and I would hate to go crying and telling myself, ‘Oh Boy I should have done that also’. One should enjoy the mystique and the magic that life has to offer.

I reach work and am surrounded with people who want to cry their heart out, My job is to listen to them patiently but the tag of a ‘Director’ makes everyone oblivious of the fact that maybe I also sometimes want to share things, cry out but ‘No’ I have to be happy and smiling. This is the reason I have decided to find happiness in everything.

The smallest of things give me pleasure, one becomes so hardened with the experiences of life that one changes and what did not give pleasure at one time suddenly starts looking beautiful and awesome.

I love to watch the starlit sky, love to feel the chilly air, love the sunrise and its beauty.

I have started thinking less and doing more, have started having lesser expectations from any relationship because the more you expect the more the problem it brings. It is a most liberating experience when you are able to live life with an attitude of no expectations. I know when I have expectations; I have preconceived ideas of how things should be that I am attached to. Expectation creates fear because you think what you desire may or may not happen. Free of expectations, you can just go with the flow of the universe and not be affected by the outcomes that you encounter. Every outcome can serve to move you towards greater realization of your desires.

I have decided to love myself more, to enjoy a cup of tea alone rather than looking for company and friends. I have decided to seek help within rather than looking at others for it.

I have started to enjoy my company more and more. I love to drive and listen to my favorite music having the control in my hand which allows me to listen to what I want to.

I have stopped looking for compliments; I have learnt that people will always find more mistakes than good things in you so why worry??

I have learnt that the best thing to do in life is to keep smiling. You will be surprised to know that a smile gives a healing touch to your emotions. It reduces the heaviness of your mind and changes your mood instantly. Therefore, make it a habit to smile more often! It will make you happy at the same time others around you will also feel the same.

I have learnt that no one is perfect so being a perfectionist that I am; the best way is to enjoy the imperfections.

I have stopped getting hassled on seeing the beds unmade and started enjoying the warmth it brings.

I have started to enjoy that traffic jam and thinking of it as blissful moment given to me by life to listen to my favourite music.

I have understood that no one understands you.

I have started to look at ‘no holidays at work’ as the time given by almighty to be able to do more. I have started to give more love rather than expect.

I am happy at least today and I do not know about tomorrow…as it’s still a mystery and forgive me as maybe tomorrow I may write just the opposite… after all I am Human……

Shalini Nambiar,
Excelsior American School,

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December 14 2009 11:35 am | life

7 Responses to “I HAVE LEARNT…”

  1. SAKSHI Says:


  2. Meeta Says:

    It’s good to hear from you after so long …and so beautifully you have knitted the thoughts together. I am sure most of us can relate to it but then knowing you I know you put up a huge smile evrytime i meet you and what is hidden behind that beautiful smile of yours ,,it seems a lot of pain…but am proud to have known you and have learnt a lot from you . Wish everyone could understand each other , life would be so much better and easier.Keep writing as it inspires me !!!

  3. Ekta Saxena Says:

    You uplifyed me today! So a very big thank you. I have to read it again. For the last few days, I was feeling a bit low due to various pressures. Being a writer myself, since i observe thing very minutely, I very well understand how small things bring you so much happiness. But I must say this was truly enlightening. You made my day! Huge Congrats to you and don’t ever write on your blog for the sheer pressure of writing. Write when you feel like. This was straight from the heart and I must say I loved it.

  4. Caroline Says:

    Hey Shalini,,,Kudos for the beautiful article ..simple an straight from your heart ..Must tell you I am amazed at your helping nature and the spirit of never give up , I have seen you at the toughest of times smiling and not getting overburdened with pressures where most people will break. Keep writing and as the previous visitor says write from your heart as you inspire a lot of people …Thanks!!

  5. kerrylee2004 Says:

    what you have learn and what you have learn, the world is always changing and it will continue.

  6. Pankaj Batra Says:

    nice post.
    a person should start finding happiness in whatever he does.

  7. Aparna Singh Says:


    I love the honesty with which the lines “in Bold”are written..

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