Love and Friendship

  - August 23rd, 2009 by Shalini Nambiar | Posted in life   4 Comments »
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“Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” (Robert Frost).

It’s been long since I wrote… it was the excess work in which I had got myself involved… a workaholic and a perfectionist that’s what I am… but was somewhere losing to be in touch with my inner self. Writing has been a great stress buster with me as it allows me to unfold those thoughts which are wrapped up inside and need to be written to feel good… To feel happy… it’s an exciting journey… Writing short quotes on Facebook is also a way of releasing one’s emotions… but why should I tell the world what I did on a Sunday morning… what I did last night… Why do we do this ? We all need listeners and in this fast paced world we feel sometimes more connected to our FB friends… virtual friends than to people who are close by. Reflect… Ponder… am I getting serious… very unlike me… I’m not like this… but anyway feel like writing something so am…

The three magical words ‘I love you’ have an importance and so often people do not realize the magic that theses words can ensue on both the speaker and the receiver, In our society we shy ourselves from using theses words but think about it how nice one feels when somebody tells you ‘I love you’

Falling in love with someone is a very natural thing and does not have any bars of age, religion, status etc In the same way the magical words “I love you” are a vital ingredient in every human relationship, be it young or old if this is not said by either of the party or seldom said then it will start to weaken the roots of the relationship and eventually it will lose its meaning/charm and die. So never wait for the other to say I love you, take the first step and start a trend in spreading love and giving a new life to your relationship. Some people believe that showing love and expressing it shows a weaker side of a person and it is a bit too emotional thing to say all the time, but then let me ask you people that when is a good time to say ” I love you”? or when was the last time you said these words…

I looked in the mirror and what looked back was an unhappy face… what had happened to me… where was that face which was always smiling and looked back with confidence and an urge to be the best in whatever I do… the desire the enigma of capable of handling a storm… what had happened… feeling low… mind pondering over where had I gone wrong… why me??? why me???

Yes as I lay there thinking as that’s the only thing you have control on… to be with your thoughts… yes I had the power to think what I wanted to… I was still strong… I cant let this spoil me… cant let that life which I had built by assembling one brick of happiness at a time… i slogged for it with all my blood and sweat… i cant let it go… i cant… I build that on sincerity without ever harming anyone

Yes we all learn to believe that it’s the other people who determine our happiness. It’s a false belief we create about our relationships. No, Nobody can control my head and my heart so much that it will break me apart… I had to come out of it and come out strong. Emerge a winner and a person capable of ruling my heart and mind myself rather than letting it be controlled by others… Who gave others a right to do it… My mistake… i did… I lived in a fool’s paradise for so long that what I need now is self courage… self determination to come out of it… Will, I be able to… ???

The truth dawned on me that I can make myself happy. I probably just don’t know how anymore. In the midst of life experience I have lost track of how I become unhappy and who is responsible. I have created so many automatic emotional reactions over the years that I have become unfamiliar with how to make myself happy. When I come back to the idea that I can make myself happy it may seems foreign.

Because I am afraid of being alone I modify my behavior to gain attention from a person in order to get his or her love. I realized I had also changed my behaviour in ways to avoid rejection or even judgment from other people I may have been doing these modifications for so long that they have become a “normal” part of my personality and are difficult to see.

We can find a clue to this in our subconscious behind comments we make such as “he/she makes me so happy.”

Let me end with this beautiful thought which I came across…

Allow Your Own Inner Light to Guide You

There  comes a time when you must stand alone.

You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.

You must be willing to make sacrifices.

You must be capable of changing and rearranging your priorities so that your final goal can be achieved.

Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged.

There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities.

Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.

Be confident enough that you won’t settle for a compromise just to get by.

Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life.

Don’t stand in someone else’s shadow when it’s your sunlight that should lead the way.

Work hard at what you like to do and try to overcome all obstacles

Laugh at your mistakes and praise yourself for learning from them

Pick some flowers and appreciate the beauty of nature

Say hello to strangers and enjoy the people you know

Don’t be afraid to show your emotions laughing and crying make you feel better

Love your friends and family with your entire being they are the most important part of your life

Feel the calmness on a quiet sunny day

Find a rainbow and live your world of dreams always remember life is better than it seems

Shalini Nambiar
Excelsior American School.


August 23 2009 01:15 pm | life

4 Responses to “Love and Friendship”

  1. radha Says:

    Hey Great article…..can almost relate to it ..yes we keep waiting for someone else withoput realising that we really don’t need anyone…it’s a false belief …so enjoy nd be happy …cheers to the author….keep writing…

  2. Michael Says:

    Great article….actually am feeling a bit low after reading it …yes missed the opportunity to say those words to someone I wanted to and till date am wondering if I said it maybe life would have been different….anyway…keep writing …it helps people like me to relate to it ..nd ofcourse thanks

  3. kaushik sqn ldr Says:

    hi shalini, i hardly use computrs being a operational guy. but me and my friend sanjeev,went thru yr article, i must cogratulate u,coz it is going to motivate so many individuals to come out of their shel and look at life with more positive attitude, and Y not, u live only once. y dont u get into book writing, u wil b overnite succes, and i wil b d first one to go for it….

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