Are U and Me Free ????

  - August 16th, 2008 by Shalini Nambiar | Posted in life   7 Comments »
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ARE U & ME FREE?

Freedom… yup, it sounds like so much of mental relief to say that word. Freedom…yes the word in itself is exciting. A word powered by positive vibes, energy and liveliness.

The first thought that comes to my mind on using this word is… freedom from what??? …

I often question myself am I free… free to do what I feel like… free to get wet in the rain..free to hug someone… free to tell someone I love u… free to run to that last corner of the world…free to just not do anything… free to eat anything without bothering how much weight I will put on… free to love whoever I want to… free to fall in love… free to just run backwards… free to do things which I dream of…

Well!!! certainly I am not free… I am chained… all the time… by society… which ironically is my creation… by my loved ones… by my management… by my colleagues… by my neighbours… by my monetary condition… by my teenage children… by what others think… the list is endless…

Yes, when we talk of freedom most of us right from childhood have understood it in the patriotic way… yes… there we are free… free from foreign hands… but am I in my individual capacity free ???

I am talking of freedom not in a broader perspective but as it applies to me…

To me, freedom means each moment, of each day, of every year, I can do
all things, or at least try all things that I desire. To me, freedom
means being able to show sadness, happiness, and anger in public. To
me, freedom means feeling safe, confident and secure in my country.
Freedom is being able to have a voice and to let it be heard. To me,
freedom means having the right to make my own decisions and choices

Freedom is the ability to live my life as I want, without modifying myself for the benefit of society.

I feel that the perception of freedom undergoes changes with every stage in life. At least mine has. At 6 I just wanted to play & watch tom & jerry. At 12 going for a school trip would define living freely. At 18 going for overnight parties was freedom. At 21 it was just flying high…

Now that I think about it “freedom” is not just going out for a trip or choosing a career or choosing your partner. Freedom is much more than that. Freedom is to be free from apprehensions, inhibitions, discriminations, thoughts of jealously or pulling people down and most importantly to be free from one’s own past.

Freedom is to live in the present. Past always stops us from doing a lot of good for ourselves. Past gives us instances that many a times stops us from doing something or trying something new. Past experiences & lessons from them are important, but that should not be used as a barbed wire that stops us from venturing new areas of life.

Freedom is not a term which we should start thinking about during Independence Day or Republic Day but it is something that is relative, it varies from person to person and changes with time .

In short: If you want to change me, just leave me alone. If you want me to change, then show me something I’ve never seen before. I might just modify it myself. Otherwise, I’m good.

That is what freedom means to be: the right to be me…

Give it a thought… Are U free???

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August 16 2008 11:55 am | life

7 Responses to “Are U and Me Free ????”

  1. Raj Nanda Says:

    I happen to come across this article while surfing…nd yes I do feel freedom is a much overrated word …no we are not free >>…i would love to do so many things …but am not free ….the society empowers u so strongly that I even tend to forget sometimes who I am …..

  2. felix gerald Says:

    Hi shalini …. It was a nice piece to read and I really like the way u have taken the it forward … it also gives me an idea on the mindset of the modern elite in the society…..U have opened the entire debate with the two very important questions … am I free ? and Freedom form what ? And u have also said that u r in chain ….i was really remained of my philosophy calls room when I red that Line I was remained of J J Rousseau and His Famous Statement man is born free, but he is everywhere in chains, a statement became the very base for many revolutions in the world …. What he meant as Free or Freedom is completely different from how you have understood the concept of freedom… I will tell you how… u have said “I often question myself am I free… free to do what I feel like… free to get wet in the rain..free to hug someone… free to tell someone I love u… free to run to that last corner of the world…free to just not do anything… free to eat anything without bothering how much weight I will put on… free to love whoever I want to… free to fall in love… free to just run backwards… free to do things which I dream of…” here I could see more I s then freedom… and ur understanding of freedom is more centered towards an individual … and they not freedom, freedom is something denotes a collective meaning… what you have mentioned here are the Rights of an individual… ..Propagating individual rights as an individual freedom is a very dangerous phenomenon and it’s direct out of a consumer values …
    Yes you have the right to say that u love me (?) and u have got the right to hug some one.. if this natural rights are taken as personal freedom then I should have the freedom to kill some one whom I hate …and if doing thing as I like becomes a freedom … we have to give the same freedom to some one to kill all the animals and the other person the freedom grow marijuana in the kitchen garden..Etc
    So freedom and rights are two different concepts and always misunderstood with one another … rights are guaranteed, limited and common to all the individuals… but freedom is unlimited and it’s a collective effort of the people for the common good.. to understand the concept of freedom we need to understand the sociological evolution of man … the concept of surrendering some individual rights for unlimited freedom for the common good was evolved when men was a food gathered… it was then the man lived a collective life with absolute freedom… all the decisions and action was in favor of the group with which he lived… he had no children of his own.. no wife of his own.. no house of his own … for him all the children in the group are his own kids … all the women who liked him became his wife ( might sound bit hard ) when he cried the entire community was with him to cry … his pain was their pain and their pleasure was his pleasure…. But things became completely different when he became a food producer ….. it was a time when he owned the land .. he wanted to have his own children his wife(s) even his own beast not that he loved them all but he wanted a free or cheap labors … he started claiming things for himself , not ready to share things with the community which let to all division in the society …. And it was a time he took back the rights he surrendered for the common good …and he was forced to surrender by the mighty and powerful who ultimately became the king …
    this sense of Mine and I became even more worse in today’s world and made even highly educated persons like u to say “ Freedom is the ability to live my life as I want, without modifying myself for the benefit of society ” for me this is the Most Dangerous attitude of the modern day elite … ( I really don’t know u but I really like to be ur friend and this my criticism about ur write up that’s it ) ok if this the what freedom to u and me and for every one … y a psychopath and rapist can live his life as he wants … y do we punish a criminal after all he wants to his life as he wants with out modifying himself for the benefit of the society ?
    In short: If you want to change it’s a time to change, and I feel ur good in looks too

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  4. sailaja Says:

    Hi Shalini,

    enjoyed reading your pieces.
    agree to disagree with some of your views like felix gerald.

    catch up soon.

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